Eek! The cop and I have officially been engaged for 3 whole days. And what an exciting and emotional 3 days it has been. I barely have time to eat let alone upload this blog post, but I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little bit about the things that I never thought I’d feel before I got engaged. The things no one tells you about getting engaged. The dirt. Here it is girls.
You probably will look awful in that moment. Your nails will be chipped. Your hair may be frizzy. You may have a huge zit on your forehead. Trust me something about your appearance will bother you when you get engaged – if only because we want to look picture perfect during that moment. The cop proposed on a rocky bluff in Rhode Island on a very windy day after we had gotten up at 5 am that day – my beehive hair was out of control and I had dark circles under my eyes. But you know what? There’s Photoshop for pictures. And in that moment you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. Because he thinks you are!
You won’t be able to stop staring at your hand. It seems totally vain, but you’ll spend hours and minutes staring at that ring on your finger. Just give in and go with it. It’s OK for you to be mesmerized by your new hardware. He spent a lot of time and money on that thing! So go ahead and flash it around.
You’ll tell your proposal story at least a million times. But it will be fun! Stop before you approach the masses and think about the story you want to tell. The cop in particular would be mortified if I went into details about what he said or how he looked. So I keep our story short and sweet. I love that the exact moment is kept private just like his proposal was.
You will be incredibly stressed in your first week. My mother, bless her heart, called 10 different venues the day we got engaged to check availability. She called me the next day to talk about dates and planning and dress appointments. I love her enthusiasm and excitement and I am so touched that she wanted to jump right in. But the cop and I have quite honestly spent most of this week completely stressed out. Who knew that we’d have to start planning 48 hours after he proposed? The problem we are finding is that venues and photographers apparently book up two years in advance – and waiting to plan would essentially mean committing to a date that was 2 years into the future. Eesh.
Everyone will ask you for a wedding date. Hello. I just got engaged yesterday. No we do not have a date, or a color theme, or a venue. How about simply saying congratulations and we’re so excited for you. Maybe gush over my ring a little. Leave it at that. And about 75% of people follow up with, “Now if you want my advice…“. Don’t even get me started.
Overall I can’t even describe the rush of emotions you will feel. I can’t believe that someone can love me enough to want to marry me. And the idea of being welcomed as a part of a new family is so wonderful. I can’t wait to see what the next few weeks and months bring. For this week though I am doing my best to simply enjoy it and savor the moment!